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I found something on my friend's facebook

My friend left her facebook logged on on my laptop so I decided to have a quick snout through her messages with her and my friend who I recently fell out with (just to see if they said anything about me) And I found a heck of alot of messages slagging me off! From both of them!!! I couldn't help but cry! They were talking about how I'm such a bad friend and so annoying, they were writing MASSIVE paragraphs full of hate, I couldn't help but cry. I've saved her from suicide and this is how she repays me! I've had sleepless night due to texting her all night when she had suicidal thoughts. I've never had a true friend and I thought she was, I give up on everyone! I've spent so much time on her! She's always come 1st. I just can't believe she would do this to me!:( I want to tell her about it to sort it out but it's kinda my fault for hacking her facebook.... what do I do?
HELP! :'(
 EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
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neonClouds said:
Find some new friends, no good can come from remaining friends with someone who secretly hates you. Don't say anything to her either, no insults or backlash, just settle things peacefully.
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Okay, thankyou :)
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
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Sounds like a good idea.
Simmeh posted over a year ago
EgoMouse said:
Ouch, that sucks. I would make new friends immediately. Ditch her. People don't really change easily. I don't feel really comfortable talking about people behind their backs, but most of my female friends and gay male friends do that. Even joking wise, its kinda hard. It takes a huge lack of respect to do something like that. Feel happy that you're a good friend that would help a friend through suicide, but don't ever feel bad about yourself because your friend is an asshole. Please don't give up on people because of her, not everyone's an arse, but a lot are.
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Thankyou so much! I went on her account again this morning and found more messages slagging me off, I think I will ditch her tbh thank you:)
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
Bridget_J said:
First off, you did a good thing to save her life and you should always remember that. You are an amazing friend and that is most important.
Second, you could try and talk to her, not even mention Facebook. Just start with something like "hey i feel like you are not being a true friend, that you have not been as nice to me, that we are not as close." Then see what she says and if you still really want to talk to her just try and steer the conversation to her not being a good friend.
You are an amazing friend, and try to find a new friend maybe. I can tell you are the kind of person everyone wants as a friend.
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That's a brilliant idea! I will do that right now thank you so much and she doesn't think I'm a great friend but thankyou that really made me smile
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
SeeUV3 said:
I know the feeling I thought I finally found a good friend but once they got a boyfriend they showed their true colors.... She started ignoring me and moving away from me saying how her boyfriend is the only thing that counts and that I am nothing to her . She even rubbed the fact I had a crush on her in my face by saying "ya know I have a bf so you are JUST a friend " Meanwhile she said she liked me back ! I even kissed her once (she didn't move away and she blushed and smiled and hugged me so I am assuming it was ok) And we got into two big fights calling each other name after nam screaming at each other I just wanted her to talk to me for once and to realize that I care I STAYED UP ALL NIGHT TALKING HER OUT OF SLITING HER WRIST and she says that I am a snobby know it all and that I never did anything to help her!!! Now we don't talk at all....
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Wow, that's horrible! You seem like a lovely person, don't let her get you down she obviously doesn't know what she's lost, message me if you ever wanna talk? Looks like we have a lot in common....
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
sarabeara said:
I've saved her from suicide and this is how she repays me!

Erm, that's definitely not something to be mad about. You saved a person's life and you're a great person for it, no need to be upset over her not repaying you for it.

Anyways, like another person suggested, definitely find some new friends. You sound like a great, dedicated person so I'm sure you'll find better friends someday. Don't lose hope or be hurt. Some people are just immature and don't understand what a great thing they have until it's gone. I'm sure they'll realize their mistake after you find better friends.
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Okay thankyou
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
summermia_ said:
First of all, do not get her back, i know you probably werent in the first place but still do not. Two wrongs don't make a right and it wont help anyone. Second of all, its very honorable of you to help her with her internal struggles(: Lastly just come up to her and talk to her about it, get her side of the story and then take action, you never know what was going on, you always have to be careful with these kind of things. I mean for example what if, like you did, some one just hacked her account or something. Good luck and I hope you get amazing friends(:
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Good idea thanks
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
Zeppie said:
I relate to this so much (except for the facebook snooping).

I had a so called best friend who I cared for so much, was the only one there for her, stayed up with her for hours talking to her when she was suicidal for 5 years when her own parents didn't even do shit, I had to be like a mother to her. Then she repays me by slagging me off too, calling me a bad friend and always putting me down to make herself feel better.

All I can say is confront her, see where it goes, but ultimately move on, hold your head up high, you are an awesome person and they are not worth your time if they said such things. Don't let them walk over you again because it will kill your self esteem. NEVER try to people-please. Learned that the hard way.
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I'm so sorry you went through that, you didn't deserve that! And thankyou very much, I'm gonna listen to your advice (as you've had experience) and confront her and find new friends thanks again :)
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
kpop4everlover said:
You're an amazing friend , we should have more people on earth like you , your friend is not a true friend , if they talk behind your back or hate you secretly. You saved her from suicide , wow what a friend she is to be doing that to you. She is just...wow , just leave her because she doesn't deserve you helping her then talking behind your back , if she doesn't tell the truth just leave her. Find a new friend , since everyday is a new day and you can have a fresh start! Don't let one person make you really upset and sad. You have lots of time to find a true friend , there are so many people in the world , not just her so be strong and you will surely find a true friend like yourself!
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Awh that really made me smile thankyou so much :3 And okay good adivice, thanks! :D
EmLuvsSprinkles posted over a year ago
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