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I'm in love with my best friend and I need help

So iv been best friends with him for 5-6 months and everyone thinks we would be cute together and stuff and we act like we are together munis kissing. Thing is I do like him I can't get him out of my head but I don't want to lose him I'm scared that if we date we will break up and I wont have him or if I tell him my feelings it be to akwared and we will drift apart I think I should just wait and see what's in the future but he's shy about his feelings sometimes when it comes to girls he really likes
 iliveingallifey posted over a year ago
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
I know it is very hard either way in thinking about all the possible things that could happen.

We can play it safe. I like safety. We can wait... that is sometimes smart... then again things could happen where you might have wished you did not wait or regret playing it safe if it was really important.

I had a crush on my best friend and I waited a bit and then I did tell him. We did not get together. We lived so far away anyway and things but it did not kill our friendship. It was fine, it was not too awkward and we stayed best friends.

I ended up dating ANOTHER best friend that was a guy. I have a few close friends, not a lot, and we are all friends together. Sometimes I think if something happens then I'll loose my best friend AND my love... but we talk. It may happen-who knows, but we keep those lines of communication flowing in how we feel, even our fears, worries & times of doubts because that is what we have come to do.

He was shyer than me, I think, but he is the one who told me his feelings, and I was the one who only looked at him like a friend. I did not respond at first or feel the same, but had he not ever told me and kept that friendship AND that other possibility open to me, we would not have gotten together several months later.

I was surprised how it flowed and just worked out so very well in transition from friends to more, and I did have those feelings when I gave it a chance. BIG SPARKS. I WAS surprised and almost a year later we are still together.

Life has many chances... I let fear hold me back enough, or lack of confidence, don't let it hold you back in love. It is a risk and sometimes we risk it all, our hearts, but know that it is for love, for a worthwhile reason or person. I think that gives me courage.
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I know it is very hard either way in thinking about all the possible things that could happen. We can play it safe. I like safety. We can wait... that is sometimes smart... then again things could happen where you might have wished you did not wait or regret playing it safe if it was really important. I had a crush on my best friend and I waited a bit and then I did tell him. We did not get together. We lived so far away anyway and things but it did not kill our friendship. It was fine, it was not [i]too[/i] awkward and we stayed best friends. I ended up dating ANOTHER best friend that was a guy. I have a few close friends, not a lot, and we are all friends together. Sometimes I think if something happens then I'll loose my best friend AND my love... but we talk. It may happen-who knows, but we keep those lines of communication flowing in how we feel, even our fears, worries & times of doubts because that is what we have come to do. He was shyer than me, I think, but he is the one who told me his feelings, and I was the one who only looked at him like a friend. I did not respond at first or feel the same, but had he not ever told me and kept that friendship AND that other possibility open to me, we would not have gotten together several months later. I was surprised how it flowed and just worked out so very well in transition from friends to more, and I did have those feelings when I gave it a chance. BIG SPARKS. I WAS surprised and almost a year later we are still together. Life has many chances... I let fear hold me back enough, or lack of confidence, don't let it hold you back in love. It is a risk and sometimes we risk it all, our hearts, but know that it is for love, for a worthwhile reason or person. I think that gives me courage.
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thank you for the inabration ill see what the future consice
iliveingallifey posted over a year ago
alexismanga said:
does he like you back? i am in the same situation and that was the first thing i found out. does he know you like him? and you should ignore the other people. trust me they're so not worth your time. any ways you should ask those two questions. i wish you luck in your quest for love.
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thank you but that answer is too late he told me he didnt like me and then afew days later he betrayed my trust and then bitched about me to another of my friends so we're not friends no more he scrwed it up but thank you
iliveingallifey posted over a year ago
bvegas2020 said:
Joining the best online dating site,Whereweallmeet,is the only thing you need to do.
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