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Cinders said:
Listen to me very carefully. This man is not your boyfriend. I am assuming based on the distance between you that you met this person on the internet. I am also assuming you talk to him a lot, and he has probably gained your trust. Now he's told you that he has a brain aneurysm and only has three months to live. Sweetie, that's what we call a "red flag." Actually, honestly, a 26-year-old man asking a 14-year-old to be his "girlfriend" is also what we call a "red flag." Do your parents know about this communication? I'm guessing not. So why are you hiding it from them? Is it because you know they would disapprove? Sometimes, parents aren't just annoying and disapproving for the sake of it. Most of the time, they have your best interest at heart.
Please do not engage in any suggestive conversations with this man or send him any photographs of yourself (even "normal" photos, like your school pictures). If he says anything inappropriate, do not respond. In fact, you should report him.
You are fourteen-years-old. I understand that you think you're in love, but I hope you understand that this person is trying to take advantage of you. I am not trying to be insensitive or disregard your feelings. I am genuinely concerned for your well-being. The internet is a dangerous place, and you have to know how to be safe. Please do not date anyone over the internet, at least until you are eighteen. It's incredibly unsafe.
Finally - you wanted to know about brain aneurysms, here's what I know. Onset is sudden, and usually without warning, and the real danger occurs when they rupture, which cannot be predicted. That means it's not exactly a "six months to live" prognosis. Which only further underlines my point that this is not someone who deserves your trust. Tell your parents.
I'm reposting this because I think this is a very serious issue, and I hope you understand that I'm not trying to upset you or freak you out, but I think this is a really dangerous situation. I know you think he's trustworthy and you think you're in love, but you can't see the whole picture. He's clearly lied to you at least once about his illness. What else has he lied about? Tell your parents.
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