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What would you do?


Ok, I have this really close guy friend, who claims he's in love with me. I've been through this situation so many times before, but if I dated the guy, it always ended badly, and we'd never be close again, and if I didn't, it's always been slightly awkward between us, I'm getting quite sick of going through this. But this guy - is different. I have these feelings for him, he's like them only person I can act myself around. I'd like to just forget it all and carry on being best friends, but I can't. He keeps on sending me these romantic messages, he cryed in my face about how much he wanted to be with me. I don't know if the feelings I'm having are romantic ones, and somehow I don't feel ready to go through this with hum, I'm enjoying being single.


So what should I do? I don't want to ruin anything between us, he's an amazing friend of mine.
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Exactly the same thing happened to me once, it completely broke me so i havent done it again. this is a tough one hun, i ll answer it soon when ive thought aof a gd solution for u, im seeing my bff soon lolz i ll ask her ^.^
Goldilottes posted over a year ago
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thankyou! :)
EmzLovesCheryl posted over a year ago
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thanks everyone, this really helped me. :)
EmzLovesCheryl posted over a year ago
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we're now together, and im so happy to say that i'm the happiest ive been i ages. thankyou! :)
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Karthigesh said:
Well hard as it is going to be, you really have to talk to him and tell him how you feel. That you are confused but you are sure that you don't feel anything romantic. Tell him that by sending you these texts it makes you feel awkward and somewhat guilty at the fact that you are forced into a corner by his feelings for you. Sometimes guys don't really think about how a girl feels before reacting so you might have to forgive him for crying in front of you. He has to realise that his actions, even though they might be sweet, do have consequences on your feelings and that the stress he puts on you takes a toll after a while.

Explain to him that he matters a lot to you and you love him as a friend and that if he loved you too, he would understand and put his feelings aside for the sake of the friendship. He has to understand your feelings matter too and not just his. You have to tell him why you are afraid of being hurt again and things ending badly, tell him that you don't want to lose him and that if anything happens in your life, you would want him to be there for you. Like I posted in another question, friendship truly is forever. He should respect your feelings and if he must, put his own feelings aside to make the friendship work and stay as strong as it has always been.

I wish you the best of luck :)
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thankyou so much, this really helped. :)
EmzLovesCheryl posted over a year ago
djsheshe said:
I think because he's your friend, he could be sincere you know. He could really love you!!! You are enjoying being single and thats cool, but I think if you leave the situation too long, just ignoring his romanticness could damage your friendship to the same extent that actually going out and breaking up could.

I think you should tell him that you want to give it a try and that its not permanent, because you are enjoying being single at the moment. (in a nice way!!!) Because he's your friend and if he loves you as much as he claims, he should be able to understand and go with the idea.

Just give it a try, you really never know what could happen.

I'm not saying keep going out with him to spare his feelings and then end up hating him. If it's not working you;ll just have to make it stop. Which is why when you tell him you'll give it a try, make it clear that it's a try and that's all it is.
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okay, thanks.:))
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pinkfluby114558 said:
I would date him. If it doesnt work than it doesnt work. But trust me its totally worth it. Especally if you feel hes different than the others. This same situation happened to me and im now engaged to the guy and just gave birth to our beautiful twin girls. I love him so much but I do admit I was very reluctant to date him. I didnt want to screw up our friendship, but he didnt either and I had to make the first move. But again, if i were you, i would take a chance on love. If hes claming hes in love than he probably is. Guys actually know their emotions better than girls do and listen to their hearts. I hope this helps :) If it doesnt and you feel even worse or somthing im pretty much always here and I can try to help as much as I can :) Good luck sweetie!
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thankyou! :)
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cupcakesss said:
You should just go for it and see what happens.If your as close and you say and if things end up badly just take a break.Im sure you could work it out.But if not u may have found the love of your life!
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thanks.:))
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