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Am I... no... or Am I...? Please help!

Soo here comes a very long story so if you're reading this I want to say thanks already!
So this year I met this girl who is sort of a tomboy(that's the term for a girl who acts boy-ish, right?) and I'm the complete opposite of that, so I first was sort of distantly because she was also a bit hard and direct. So anyways I got to know her and she's a very good friend of mine now. In the beginning she was very interested in me and telling me many things and she still does and is(also of course, vice versa). But when I see her or when I'm around her I get this so weird feeling. I'm straight or at least that's what I thought, but sometimes I have a strange gut feeling that makes me doubt. I also dreamt about her in a way I usually dreamt about my boy crushes. Please help me! Am I seriously having a crush on her? Or is it just m being in puberty and will this awkward feeling go away? And most of all... am I really lesbian/bisexual?????!!!!
 Chaann94 posted over a year ago
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r-pattz said:
Don't think. Just feel.

Let your heart go where it wants, and let it feel what it will. Because really, your heart knows better than your brain when it comes to this.
I'm gay, see, and I sorted myself out by just feeling.

But just because you do have these feelings for her doesn't mean that you're bi/gay. I hated when people told it to me, but it might just be a phase, especially since you're uncertain. A lot of girls at this age are bi-curious, and I also think that we sexualize each other a lot.
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bri-marie said:
Honestly, no one can answer the question of your sexuality but you. I think what you need to do is sit down and really think about what you're thinking and feeling. Be totally honest with yourself - do you think about her in a sexual way? Are the "feelings" you had similar to those you have about your male crushes? Have you noticed this about other girls/women? If yes, then it's a possibility you're bisexual (but, again, only you can answer that).
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Thank you so much for answering! btw my answers were Yes, Yes and No. Thanks again!
Chaann94 posted over a year ago
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No problem :) Hope everything works out.
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M169 said:
There are many different types of love.

Friendship is one of them

Friendship can actually be stronger than a romantic kind, but listen to your heart in this. Do you have a crush on her? Or is it just a friendship kind of love. You can get funny feelings in both. I know because I have questioned myslef about the same thing before, and I found out I do not love her romanticly. The heart guides us with these feelings, and if you listen to it enough, you'll find the answer. If you are lesbien/bisexual, remember that there is nothing wrong with that, and it's the way things are ment to be.

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beatles1fan said:
First of all, calm yourself. Secondly, you are not homosexual or bisexual. It is normal to have strange dreams and feelings about people that you hang out with because of puberty. Step back from the scene and analyze it for yourself. If you had a crush on your friend you would know it and be comfortable with it.
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