I need help... and FAST!!!!! please help me!!!!!!!

ummm i dont know gust say no and he will under stand

I've been through this before too. It's really hard. I had a really hard time with this when it happened to me.

But sadly, you only have a few options. Accepting, as a pity date, or rejecting.

The good thing about accepting is that you don't hurt his feelings, temporarily. Another good thing is that you are giving him a chance to grow on you in that way (although if you're already friends with him, I'm not sure how much room there really is if you already know you're not interested...) The bad thing about it is that you don't really want to do it, so it's not fun for you. Also, another bad thing is that it's leading him on, which leads to hurt feelings later on anyway.

The good thing about rejecting is that you get it over with, and if you do it correctly (meaning gently, not brutally) then you may still be able to save the friendship. The bad thing about rejecting is that you have to hurt his feelings. You want to be as gentle as possible, and let him know that you really like him as a friend, but no matter what he will be hurt.

So it's a hard decision. Either way, it's a really hard thing to do. :( I can already see that you care about him as a friend because you are so worried about hurting him. So my best advice is to be as gentle as possible if you decide to reject him, and let him know that you really do like him as a friend. If you decide to accept just this once, then just be yourself around him, as awkward as it may feel, and if things get a little too far just keep it light and friendly with him while letting him know that you aren't ready to go that far.

Gosh, I'm sorry, this is going to be difficult for both of you.

My advice is:

Saying 'yes' may seem like the easy thing to do, and it is but is it the RIGHT thing to do for you and your friendship with this guy?
Think about it, you may go to homecoming with him but "I don't want to be here with him" will be stuck in your head the whole night and you won't be able to enjoy it and it'll be awful.
Saying 'yes' may spare his feelings ... FOR NOW because if you go with him, and nothing clicks, then you won't WANT to date him, which is kind of the next step and he'll be crushed and then he'll figure out that you went to the dance with him because you felt you had to.

So, just tell him "I'm so sorry, but I don't want to go to homecoming with you, I love you but not in that way, I don't want to spoil our friendship..." or something along those lines but personalise it, so he knows you still want to be friends.
If you really don't want to go with him, say 'no'. It's the right thing to do although it may be the hardest, which often turns out to be the case.

If he's truly your friend, he will understand and still want to be in your life.

Good Luck! I hope I helped a little!

Why can't you just be honest with him? Just tell him that you'd feel weird going with him. You can still go with him, but not "with" him, if you know what I mean. You can go with a bigger group of friends, you'd still be hanging out with him, but it wouldn't be awkward for you or anything.

Hope it works out :)

well, maybe you can find something different from "yes" and 'no" - I nean, maybe you can offer to spend the time in a different way, like going to the movie and telling him that you were looking forward to see this movie for a long time. Can sound stupid. But maybe can help.
The other thing is, that I know for shure, that in such situation your feelings are the most important, because if you like him - you'll like everything, but if you don't - you'll be disgudted of yourself for a long time and you'll never forget it. So, I think, that you need to care about yourself in the in the first way, and how do you feel about it. Sorry if something isn't usefull. I hope you'll deal with it in the best way.

Bummer! Your in a tough situation.
The best advice I can give is to NOT lie. And a pity date is kinda just that. Things could go terribly bad. You could go with him and TOTALLY give him the wrong impression-especially if he likes you. Also he could find out that you only went with him becuz you couldn't say no. And that could REALLY hurt. In fact, it would hurt ALOT more than rejection.
Who knows. IF you don't like that, then maybe you could say yes, and then invite a bunch of friends and make it a "group" date. ") Hope I helped. I really am awful at giving advice. "P
Yours,
Kay