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Breaking Heart...Am I Being Selfish?

One of my absolute closest guyfriends has just recently gotten involved in a "relationship" with some other girl from his church/youth group. He always seemed to have special feelings toward me, because he would favor me over practically every other guy or girl around. He and I bonded quickly from the moment we met, and honestly, I was hoping our relationship would have turned out to be something more in the future. I know this probably all sounds cliche, but the girl he's apparently "fallen in love with" even looks similar to me, except I'm more tan and curvy in figure than herself. But, other than that, we both wear glasses occasionally, have bright eyes and rounded faces, etc. I didn't want to get involved in a relationship as yet, because I'm still a teen and know that I have know concept of actually being in love, but I thought he could see just how much he meant to me as a loving friend. I'm absolutely heartbroken now...especially seeing how incredibly happy he is with her (her name is Jackie). He's texting her constantly, straight after school ends for the day. My other friend, Nate, said that when Nolan's not with Jackie, he's either texting her or on the phone with her. Yes, I want him to be happy, and I'm happy to see him smile so brightly now every day, but deep down, I really wanted him to be happy with me. Am I being selfish for having these feelings? I'm not (and will never be) the type of girl to break apart a relationship, but the feeling of betrayal and jealousy is extremely dominant in my emotions towards him right now. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks :) <3
 Summer_Leanne posted over a year ago
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goddessoflife said:
Hmm...that sounds...complicated. Maybe you should tell him how you feel and see how it goes from there. I'm not sure...but talking can help a lot of things.
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Karipoof said:
No you're not being selfish. You're just having normal human emotions and feelings.
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isabella1345234 said:
u sound like a very nice friend if u want him to be happy and i not think ur being selfish ill call it more like jealousy i mean you'v ben with him for a very long time and his world was always revoled around u and now that he's got a girl u miss the attention he use to give and about the future relationship u never no it might happen love has a way of coming around but for right now i think u should just stand by him and be happy for him and may be find someone to go out with so u wont look like a dansall in distress i really hope my advice can give u an idea and i wish good luck to u and ur friend.
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aile_chi said:
i dont tink ur being selfish at all, maybe you've just gotten used 2 him seeming 2 like u, and getting 2 like the attention his giving...if its been a pretty long time since you've met then maybe he does like but just got tired of waiting,,, u shud talk 2 him n if ur really meant 4 each other then he's bound 2 come back
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shivers-zimmy said:
Have You Ever Seen The Movie My Best Friend's Wedding? It's About A Girl Who's Best Friend Is A Guy! He Tells Her He's Getting Married! She Goes To See Him, Trying To Stop The Wedding! Eventually She Finds Out That She Doesn't Really Love Him, She Just Wants Him Because She's Had Him For So Long! I Think Whats Happening Here Is Similar! What You Wanted To Happen, Didn't Happen! So You Want Him As Your Bofriend! I Think It's Sweet How You Just Want Him To Be Happy! You May Like Him A Lot, But You'll Get Over It! If You Let His Relatioship Run It's Course, It'll End! Something Will Happen That Ends There Relationship! If You Think You Really Like Him, Wait Around! If You Can Get Over Him, Thats Great! It's Best To Put A Little Distance Between You Guys! Once Theres Distance He'll Know If He's Making The Right Choice! He May Think Of You As A Friend, But That May Be Stronger Than His Relationship! If You Back Off, He'll Know What He Wants! I Hope This All Works Out For You! -Elizabeth
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