So Jon and Kate are divorcing, it is a shame but that is life. He said, she said is not good for their children. All that needs to be said is we are not together, but we love our children and will treat each other with respect for them. In the beginning of any relationship when you fall in love you have the best intentions of everything working out in the end. The truth is though, we don't stay the same people for the rest of our lives. When there are children added to the mix especially eight of them, things will change. You stop focusing on each other and start focusing on them. Everyone can say what they want about Jon being a douche bag, and Kate being a bitch, but I'm sure when this all started they loved each other. Now they don't, and that's ok. What they do when there children are not around is irrelevant. Both of them are going to need to realize that the other is going to move on and have other relationships. As long as their children are well cared for and most importantly know they are loved, all the other things shouldn't matter