I think I know what you're saying. Generally speaking, if I tell a user something more than twice I get a little fed up. Although that's only happened once with me. I've been sharper the second time around, passive aggressive mostly, and the third time I need to remind them I'm... well, very blunt.

It's OK to get frustrated with another fan and to let them know. It's better than being frustrated and NOT letting them know.

Of course you don't want to scare new users away, but folks aren't made of glass. Trust me when I say they will recover.

Complete agreement there, Carly. You put it so much more eloquently than I could.

I help people but sometimes I just say that they are a bit dumm or something, but I try to treat them with respect and I think that matters

HA HA HA! i can teach you english: i know 25 words..and the trick is to just use them over and over again..in a different order :D

i have to say.. i dont recall getting critical comments on something that i posted. i tried to surf the site first, read what other users had written and sort of find out how its done before i actually posted anything. its normally pretty obvious if someone didnt know better/forgot e.g marking something a spoiler (which is fine to a certain degree) or if they dont WANT to know better or are just plain lazy. i feel that none of your calling out/criticism was ever mean or hurtful..but maybe thats because i tend to agree with what you write.

hmmm agree with what i write

everyone should wire me money
everyone should rate my things 5

yep i agree with that too..they should!!!
then again i should get to work now...and i should clean up my apartment...and i...

thanks for the prop btw :)

I don't report them, except in one case. In most cases, I can simply provide a link to a relevant article in the link spot.

The one case where I report people is with miscategorized content. But usually I try sending them a private message first, with a recommendation for where I think the content would better belong. Usually it's well-received, though it may be irritating at times. I dunno; you tell me.

Edit: With most users I'm able to conduct civilized discussions, and so I feel comfortable in sending repeated suggestions if I perceive a repeated offense. Of course, these users are free to disagree with me. Some good conversations have resulted from these exchanges. But I should say that a miniscule subset of users have become completely unglued at such suggestions, accusing me of persecution, hypocrisy, harassment, senility, jealousy, hatred and general evil (among other things). Since I find insanity unnerving, I choose not to interact with them any further, even though they may constantly repeat what I perceive as wrong behaviors, belittle me or other users, and/or misinterpret my content submissions. There's always going to be some people who we each find toxic, and it's better to ignore and avoid these people than to get caught up in repeated conflict with them, especially knowing that the results are always going to be the same. The great thing is, what's toxic to me is balm to someone else and so on, so the behavior of someone who may really bug one user still benefits the site as a whole.