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I'm really scared to go on a date?

I've been texting this guy; he friended me on facebook then started texting me. I met him once, and I didn't really say much to him. I think he asked me on a date, so far that's what it sounds like. I have really bad anxiety, and I grew up seeing my sister in abusive relationships and it really scares me. I was always think it'd be nice to be in a relationship but once it gets close to happening, I get scared and completely shut down. I'm really scared, but I want to do this. Any advice?
 para-scence posted over a year ago
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Catherine51197 said:
Well 1stly, my main piece of advice is that you shouldn't date this guy as you obviously don't know him very well, but if he's in school or the same nieghbourhood as you & you want to go out with him, suggest a few friendly get togethers before you start getting serious (friendship first policy). 2ndly, the thing to know is that if a boy asks you to go anywhere with him, its a date, so preferably just start hanging out at school casually before going anywhere together on weekends. Lastly, I know exactly where your coming from; I have a friend who's dad was abusive to her as a child so she's very cautious too, but just keep in mind that not all men are violent. Before you start the real relationship, be absolutely 100% most certainly sure that your guy knows how much your worth; that you're precious, valuable, a real person (not a sexual object) & delicate, because then he'll treat you right & respect you like he should. So be sure to keep these things in mind when choosing any guy, otherwise, you might end up like your sister (just be wise/careful with making these decisions) & good luck :).
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FLUFFYMUFFIN said:
lol you THINK he asked you out? haha sry...thats jest a bit funny. anyway...jest chill your not your sis but make sure this guy is nice!! have FUN thats the best way to not get nerves. And also try to think of this as jest chilling with a friend (but dont show it) untill you fell more comfortable with him.
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